Sexual Purity and our fallen world.

I keep seeing posts on my Facebook feed about how the ideals of sexual purity are "patriarchal".
But let's be honest.

The ideal of sexual purity is God-blessed, because when we hold to sexual purity we have the best relationships we can in marriage.

But sin and corruption have screwed some people's sexual "purity." Abuse, rape, relationships before being saved, relationships deceived while being saved. There are a lot of examples of this.

I think the beauty in the midst of each of these dark scorching coals in our hearts in the redemption that God provides.
He relieves our guilt (for consensual relations) and our shame (for nonconsensual relations).
He helps us forgive others and ourselves.
He helps us redefine our paradigms for healthy sexual relationship from the scars our past has left. God is maternal,
God is paternal.
God does not hurt us but He helps us.
He heals us.
If a person feels oppressed by humans that are leaders in the church, they should turn to God's healing, and not broken people (although I definitely agree that there is a purpose and necessary need for counselors in many situations).
I do not think that male leaders in the church have it all figured out.
I do not think that female leader in the church have it all figured out.
There is imbalance and not enough realizations in the "middle" ground of the liberal and conservative arguments of the church.
There is division.

When I think about the division of the church, sometimes it's just misunderstanding.
But sometimes it's people being too stubborn to listen to God (on both sides).
And sometimes it's people listening to God.

When you listen,
Really stop and listen to God
Do you find yourself arguing with Scripture (the inerrant words of Christ!)?
Do you find yourself mad at Paul's writings?
Do you say to yourself that this is cultural and was a broken system?

Stop listening to your voice and start listening to God's voice.
It's in the Scripture. The more you study it (and NOT what other people write about it), the more you understand God's will for your life! And what He's really saying. Study the cultural understanding.

Step away from theology and take a look at history.

Study someone who takes an exegetical perspective and not a topical perspective.

Spend more time in God's word and less time in devotionals written by people.

(This is by no means my exhaustive feelings on this topic.)